Children Going Back To School
By allaboutfa3909812, Sep 7 2017 07:43PM
The start of the new school year is exciting for most kids. But it also prompts a spike in anxiety: Even kids who are usually pretty easy-going get butterflies, and kids prone to anxiety get clingier and more nervous than usual. Parents feel the pain, too: Leaving a crying child at preschool isn’t anyone’s idea of fun. And having to talk a panicked first grader onto the bus or out of the car at school can be a real test of your diplomatic skills.
Kids who normally have a little trouble separating from mom and dad will see their anxiety peak during times of stress or transition. The start of school may be especially challenging for kids who are entering
a transition year such as going into kindergarten, into middle school, or to a new school. It can also be stressful if there’s a change in your child’s social support system — maybe a good friend has moved, or has a different teacher this year.
Being anxious is just one possible issue that your child may face. Getting bullied, moving to a new school, struggling academically or having trouble with self-confidence and body image. Regardless of
age and grade, these are some of the timeless problems your kids may be encountering when they’re heading back to school. Going back to school is a big transition for kids since the freedom of summer gets replaced with the structure of school.
Problem: Your child is getting bullied at school or isn’t making friends.
Getting picked on at school is incredibly embarrassing, so your child may not admit that they’re getting bullied by fellow students. Parents need to focus on how their child is behaving instead of what he or
she is saying. Your child could have unexplained injuries, missing or damaged property, they might not want to go to school, or they may have trouble eating and sleeping.
Parents need to communicate with their children exactly what they are seeing and offer help. He’ll be reassured to hear that he doesn’t have to deal with this on his own – although he may also be very
afraid of what might happen if the parent were to become involved.
You can help to alleviate that worry by letting him know that you’ll follow his lead as much as possible while also fulfilling your parenting responsibility to do your best to keep him safe. Let your kids know that bullying is extremely common and they shouldn’t blame themselves for what’s happening.
Problem: Your child isn’t getting good grades or is struggling academically.
If your child is struggling in school, she won’t say it outright either so be prepared to read between the lines.She could complain about the teacher, act out in class, or talk about how the material is boring.
She could skip, show up late or even complain about a tummy ache or feeling unwell to get a sick note.
They could be forgetting textbooks or pencils and doing things that drive parents crazy. We think it’s kids not paying attention but it happens more when you’re disengaged with a subject. Help your child brainstorm solutions once you’ve identified a problem. This will give her the chance to practice self-advocacy skills, such as asking the teacher for help, or getting a tutor to work on subjects that need improvement.
Problem: Your child is lacking self-confidence, or has body image issues.
Check in with your child to see how they’re feeling about their body image, confidence with public speaking or any other issues. If they’re nervous about an issue, such as reading out loud, practice breathing exercise and start an informal book club at home so they can share their thoughts in a comfortable setting.
Weight and body image concerns are legitimate. This is an area of high pressure for all ages in the
world. Try to discuss the issue so you can dispel any misunderstandings or explain what’s going on
with their growing bodies, such as puberty and growth spurts. Ask your kids outright what they think
could help them feel better about themselves. If it’s a weight issue, you could carve out a healthy eating plan and exercise as a family.
It is important your kids know that things won’t always be as tumultuous as they are right now, and that you’re there to support them. Hope is very important when they’re grappling with difficult issues. Kids need to know that they’re not alone and that they can count on you for practical assistance and moral support.